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 Real Girls Jess is an extended community of girls who are coming together to identify, celebrate, and explore everything that is going on in their lives: the good, the bad, and the in-between. Whether you live in Sri Lanka or Sacramento, girls worldwide are sharing the same thoughts and concerns.
Are you torn between:
- Having a babysitter and being a babysitter?
- Wanting a bra and wearing one?
- The girl’s dept. and the junior’s dept.?
- Hanging out with your parents and pretending you don’t know your parents?
- Thinking boys/girls are gross and thinking boys/girls are hot?
- Junior high school and high school?
- Being a girl and being a woman?
Well the good news is: you are not alone!! I remember exactly what it felt like to be riding a roller coaster of emotions about growing up being a girl in the world.
And this page is dedicated to inspiring, supporting, and celebrating you!
A special message from Jess:
Ok, it’s no secret that I wasn’t happy as a kid. I even wrote a book about it. When I was 11, I went on my first diet and then the rest of my teen years were spent hating my body, my life, my clothes, my hair, everything!! I struggled with low self-esteem and major body loathing. But if you would have asked me what I wanted when I was a kid, I would have said, “I just want to be happy!”
Yet, I thought happiness was all about how much I weighed, how many people liked me, and how many awards I had won. Happiness always felt like something that lived outside of me. Something that would be coming someday…not something I could create today!
Happiness is not just the size you wear or what you own – it is who you are, how you handle relationships, and the way you help others. It is about self-image, self-esteem, and self-empowerment. But how do you get those things?? Well, we are going to be exploring together ways to raise your self-esteem, tackle your daily dilemmas, and focus on being the extraordinary and unique girl you are!
Part of what really helped me get out of a dark spot in my life was keeping a journal. What I love about journals is that they get to keep secret your very own private thoughts and feelings. Over the past 10 years, I have collected stories, ideas, tips, and tools that have helped me find happiness in being a Real Girl.
I still actively use all of these tools every day! So, I am going to share with you my (super secret) steps to get happy and stay happy in your life. Well, I guess if I am sharing them with you they aren’t so secret after all!
So if you’d like, grab a journal and try
doing this exercise:
Change Your Language/Change Your Life
How many times during the day do you call yourself “stupid”, “dumb”, “lazy”, “ugly”, or “fat”? Girls can be cruel to other girls but most times WE are our OWN worst enemies. So for 7 days (that’s one whole week) I want you write down in your journal a list of the negative words you call yourself during the day. Don’t write down what your brother called you when he was picking on you or what your sister said to you when you were fighting. I want you to write down all the nasty thoughts you have about yourself during the day. Get them out and on paper in this journal.
And then go back and see if you can write down what was going on for you when you were saying those negative things. Were you most harsh on yourself in the morning before you got dressed? Right before a test? After you saw your crush? While fighting with your best friend? Try to uncover what events or experiences might trigger this nasty BLOG.
Take your time, do this for 7 days and then check back for the next step. We are going to begin replacing that destructive language with some more positive and pro-active language. You will be amazed to see just how much of an impact words can have on your self image and self esteem.
Write to me at info@jessweiner.com and tell me how this exercise goes. We’ll share some of your comments with other Real Girls, too!
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